African-American wedding ceremonies, newlyweds "jump over a broom" to symbolize
the beginning of a new life. The ritual was created during slavery, when
African-Americans could not legally marry. Some people trace this wedding
tradition to an African tribal marriage ritual of placing sticks on the ground
representing the couple's new home. Today, the jumping of the broom is a symbol
of sweeping away of the old, and welcoming the new. Broom Jumping can be
performed either at the wedding ceremony, after the minister pronounces the
newlyweds husband and wife, or at the wedding reception just after the Bridal
Party enters the reception area. A fully decorated broom can be purchased at
ethnic stores. Other couples may prefer to use a regular household broom
decorated with bows, flowers, and/or other trinkets in the wedding colors. At
some receptions, guests may participate in the ceremony by tying ribbons around
the broom before the Broom Jumping begins.
As the Bride
walks up the aisle at her Wedding Ceremony, the Bride stops and hands her mother
a flower from her bouquet and they embrace. After the Wedding Ceremony is
finished, the new couple walk to the Groom's side of the church and the Bride
gives her mother-in-law a second flower from her bouquet and they also embrace.
may wear a red wedding dress, symbolizing love and joy. At the wedding
reception, a nine-course meal (lasting up to three hours) is very popular. A
family member may act as the official "Master of Ceremonies" orchestrating
family introductions, toasts, comedy sketches, and a reenactment of the
Eastern Orthodox Church
are blessed by the Priest, who takes them in hand, and makes the sign of the
cross over the Bride and Groom's head. The "Koumbaros" (Best Man) then exchanges
the rings three times, taking the Bride's ring and placing it on the Groom's
finger, and vice-versa. This exchange signifies that in married life, the
weaknesses of the one partner will be compensated for by the strength of the
other, and the imperfections of one by the perfection's of the other. Candles
are held throughout the Wedding Service, which begins immediately after the
Betrothal Service. The candles are like the lamps of the five wise maidens of
the Bible who, because they had enough oil in them, were able to receive Christ
when He came in the darkness of the night. The candles symbolize the spiritual
willingness of the couple to receive Christ, Who will bless them through this
sacrament. The Office of the Crowning which follows is the climax of the Wedding
Service. The crowns are signs of the glory and honor that God crowns them during
the sacrament. The Bride and Groom are crowned as the King and Queen of their
own little "kingdom", their home, which they will (hopefully) rule with wisdom,
justice, and integrity.
may choose to carry a white silk or satin purse ("busta") to store gifts of
money that are welcomed. "Tarantella" folk dances are popular at the wedding
reception. Another Italian custom is to present five sugar-coated almonds to the
guests which represent health, wealth, long life, fertility, and happiness.
and her Parents might visit the Groom's house on wedding day. At the wedding
ceremony, the Bride's wedding gown is often a traditional wedding kimono. She
usually changes into something else at the wedding reception. The first of nine
sips of sake drunk by the Bride and Groom at their wedding ceremony symbolizes
the official union of marriage.
are sometimes tossed at Newlyweds to bring them good luck.
of the Bride may choose to place the veil on the Bride before the wedding
ceremony to symbolize her last task that a Mother does on behalf of her girl
before she becomes a married woman. A traditional folk song ("Twelve Angels") is
sometimes played at the reception, allowing the Bride to transfer her veil, and
good luck to be married, to her Maid of Honor, Bridesmaids, and Flower Girl. A
morning wedding ceremony is sometimes followed with a brief afternoon luncheon,
several hours of downtime when guests return home, and then a long evening
wedding reception. Polka dances and other audience participation events are very
and his Groomsmen often wear Scottish kilts (and traditionally no
undergarments!). The Groom may present the Bride with an engraved silver
teaspoon on their wedding day to symbolize that they will never go hungry. A
traditional sword dance is sometimes performed at their wedding reception.
Groom gives sometimes gives his Bride thirteen coins in memory of Christ and the
twelve apostles. The Bride carries them in a small bag during the Wedding
Ceremony as a symbol that the Groom promises to support and care for her.
One early French wedding custom signifies the new alliance created by uniting
two families through marriage. During the Wedding Reception, the new couple
raise a glass of wine from two different vineyards. They then pour their wine
into a third glass and each drinks from
wedding ceremony, the Groom may kneel on the hem of the Bride's dress to
symbolize his control over her. Not to be outdone, the Bride may step on the
Groom's foot when she rises to symbolize her power over him!
newlyweds wear a crown of flowers during the wedding ceremony. The couple may
walk around the altar three times representing the Holy Trinity. At the
reception, Greek folk dances are popular, with guests lining up in a single file
wedding ceremony, thirteen gold coins (representing the Groom's dowry to his
Bride) are often blessed by the priest, and passed between the hands of the
newlyweds several times before ending with the Bride. A large rosary or white
rope ("laso") is sometimes wound around the couple's shoulders in a figure-8
symbol of "infinity" during the wedding ceremony to symbolize their union as
In the early
1900's, an Irish couple would walk to church together on their Wedding Day. If
the people of their parish approved their union they would throw rice, pots,
pans, brushes and other household items at the couple as they approached their
church. Today, "hen parties" (Bridal Showers) have replaced this practice. Some
Irish people wear a "claddagh" ring for a wedding ring. This ring was
created by a master goldsmith, Richard Joyce, 400 years ago in a fishing village
called Claddagh, which overlooks Galway Bay. The claddagh symbolizes love,
loyalty, and friendship. On the right hand, with the heart facing inward, it
means the wearer's heart is unoccupied. Facing outwards reveals love is being
considered. When worn on the left hand facing outward, it signifies that the
wearer is seriously committed or married. At some Irish wedding receptions, the
Groom is lifted in a chair ("jaunting car") to celebrate that he is a married
man. For good luck, the newlyweds are given a horseshoe to display in their home
in the upward position. A traditional Irish wedding cake is a fruitcake.
Traditional Irish toasts, in addition to remarks from the Best Man, are very
Irish Marriage Blessing
May God be with you and bless you;
May you see your children's children.
May you be poor in misfortune,
Rich in blessings,
May you know nothing but happiness.
From this day forward.
It is a
Jewish tradition for a Bride to present her Groom with a tallit to wear for his
Aufruf, the reading of the Torah prior to their ceremony. The Groom's family
often give candlesticks to the Bride that can be used during the actual wedding
ceremony. It is also a custom for Jewish men to cover their heads at all times,
especially during prayers, with a kippot (yarmulkes), as a form of reverence,
respect, and acknowledgement that God is present everywhere. In some
congregations, women also cover their heads to pray.
Orthodox, Conservative, and Reform wedding ceremonies take place under a chuppah
(wedding canopy). The chuppah is a rectangular piece of cloth large enough for
the Bride, Groom, Rabbi, and sometimes other members of the wedding party to
stand under. The chuppah signifies the new home about to be shared by the
newlyweds. Before the procession to the chuppah, the tanaim are signed, and the
Groom is asked if he is ready to take on the responsibilities outlined in the
kepubah. He signifies his willingness by accepting a handkerchief or other
object offered to him by the Rabbi. The two witnesses to this sign the ketubah.
While the actual text of the ketubah is never meant to vary, the border
decorations on this document have over the centuries been the subject of
remarkable artistic creations. At the beginning of the wedding ceremony, the
Bride might observe the Biblical custom of "Circling the Groom" seven times.
This practice is seen as a powerful act of definition, where the Bride will
symbolically create the space that they will share as husband and wife.
In Judaism, the number seven is mystical
and represents completion and fulfillment. Just as the creation of the world was
finished in seven days, the seven circles complete the couple's search for each
or veiling, is a small ceremony in which the Groom lowers the veil over the
Bride's face, and by this act acknowledges that he is marrying the correct
woman. This custom originated in the story of Jacob who didn't see the face of
his Bride prior to his wedding and was tricked into marrying Leah instead of his
marriage ceremony consists of two parts: Erusin (pre-engagement) and Nissuin
(marriage). These ceremonies were historically performed up to one year apart,
but more recently the two have been combined into one ceremony. The Eursin
ceremony begins with Kiddush, the blessing over the wine.
Kiddush is part of virtually all Jewish
observances as a prayer of sanctification. The exchange of rings completes the
law, a verbal declaration of marriage is not legally binding unless an act of
Kinyan, a formal physical acquisition is completed. This is reached when two
witnesses see the Bride accept a ring from the Groom, and he recites the words
of marriage. After the ketubah has been read at the ceremony, wine is often
poured into a new glass, and the Sheva Berakhot (Seven Benedictions) are recited
over it. The Bride and Groom then drink from the glass of wine. With the
ceremony complete, tradition calls for the Groom to break the wrapped glass by
stomping on it. This final action symbolizes the destruction of the Holy Temple
in Israel, and reminds guests that love is fragile. The audience may shout Mazel
Tov, and the Bride and Groom kiss.
after the wedding ceremony, the couple may spend a few private moments together,
or Yichud as a symbolic consummation of their marriage. Later, the Mitzvah, or
obligation, of rejoicing at a wedding reception is incumbent on the Bride,
Groom, and guests.